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Noam Chomsky Does Not Support Pornography

January 29, 2010 By View Comments

Noam Chomsky appeared in a prominent Adult Magazine and was seen as an endorsement. However, when he was interviewed by them, they did not reveal which magazine they represented but only revealed who they interviewed. They also did not send him a transcript of the interview, which is standard procedure.

When Chomsky was asked, “What is your view of pornography?”, he responded, “It is humiliation and the degredation of women. It’s disgrace activity. I don’t want to be associated with it…women are degraded as vulgar sex objects. It’s not what human beings are.”

When Chomsky was asked, “But didn’t porn performers choose to do the job and get paid?”, he responded, “The fact that people agreed to it and are paid is about as convincing as the fact that we should be in favor of sweatshops in China where women are locked in a factory and work 15 hours a day. Then the factory burns down and they all die. Yes they were paid and consented, but doesn’t make me in favor of it. So that argument we can’t even talk about it. As to the fact that it is some people’s erotica. That’s their problem; it doesn’t mean I have to contribute to it. If they get enjoyment out of humiliation of women, they have a problem. It’s nothing I want to contribute to it.”

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Minimizing Our Sin

January 20, 2010 By View Comments

Many of us do this and other tactics to minimize sin. So how do we minimize sin? In two blog posts, Porn to Purity discusses how we minimize sin in recover through two popular basic tactics: diversion and transference. So I will avoid discussing those as his posts were excellent. Here are a few ways that I minimize sin, and I am the king (at least in my world) at some of these, at all of these at some point in my life.

  1. I give excuses. These are wide-range and far-fetching as can be. One in particular that I may do is get defensive claiming that I don’t like confrontation, or I explain things away as it was nothing. Another is that I blame “the addiction” when in reality, I just chose to do it. A great quote I once heard was: “Excuses are tools of incompetence. They build monuments of nothingness and bridges to nowhere. Those that specialize in them seldom accomplish anything else.”
  2. I rationalize it. Similar to the first one but very different. This includes a great deal of mental energy and logic and deceit. I simply force myself to the wrong conclusion, one that I know is wrong, but am driven by my emotions, my desires, and my flesh. So I rationalize. I give “good,” rational lies for my behavior convincing (rather deceiving) myself so that I numb my conscience against whatever it is that I want to do. Thus I more than likely grieve and quench the Spirit’s touch on my life. This includes things like “well it’s not really pornography because she is wearing a bikini,” or “I think I’ll go here and maybe I’ll see something that I wasn’t supposed to.”
  3. I blame others. This is the Adam syndrome. When God confronted Adam about his sin (the you is singular here), as any good man (sarcasm), he blamed his woman (Gen 3:12). And ladies, now you know where we get it from! I simply say, “Its not my fault!” And I redirect the “godly” rage against someone else; or rather, I try with no avail most times. One thing I do is I get as close to the fence as possible so as to blame the other side.
  4. I claim to be a victim. This is very similar to the first three; however, it deserves its own remarks due to its growing popularity among people like me. This takes absolutely no ownership of the sin implying that I am only a byproduct of my genetics or our environment. While this may be true for the nonChristian (which I won’t debate, see Eph 2:1-3), for me, the Christian, this is completely untrue (cf. Eph 2:4, “But God…” and Eph 2:10). I do this sometimes when I say things like “I didn’t put that billboard there,” or “the email came to my email and I didn’t know what it was until it was too late.”
  5. I wear masks and masquerade around as being better than we really are. I fake maintain an image for many reasons including shame, inadequacy, embarrassment, and guilt. This one really has two parts: hiding our sin; and exaggerating my good qualities/actions.
    1. I hide my sin keeping it a secret. I believe the lie that I cannot reveal those feelings of shame, inadequacy, embarrassment, and guilt, I lose all confidence and hide just as Adam and Eve hid from God in the Garden (Gen 3:8, 10).
    2. I exaggerate the good things. Instead of hiding, I make things sound better than they really are. I’ve been told that this is just a craving for attention, and it might be. Likewise, I still believe the lie that we cannot reveal those feelings of shame, inadequacy, embarrassment, and guilt, but instead of hiding I compensate (usually over-compensate) becoming what I believe to be confident but what comes across as arrogant.
  6. I downplay the actual sin. I’ll say something like, “Well it was only a catalog picture,” or, “It wasn’t hardcore pornography.” This is a diversion, and I am just placing my sin next to a “bigger” sin minimizing my sin (see Matt 7:1-5, speck vs. log; “the log is my pet sin-don’t mess with it; yours is a bigger deal!”). So I make things sound not as bad as they really are; and that my sin is not that bad. So what I am really doing is minimizing my sin while magnifying another sin, a similar sin that I didn’t commit.
  7. I judge (see Matt 7:1-5). Instead of focusing on my own personal sin, which is usually the topic of conversation, I shift the focus on my wife’s sin in particular. I’ll call out her time with God or her anger. And many times, I blow something that was not sinful out of proportion based on my misunderstanding. However, I am only doing it to end the conversation.
  8. I spiritualize. I shift the focus on God’s grace and my apparent or real sorrow. Basically, I am playing the God card. I say, “God has forgiven me, so why haven’t you?” Or “God has forgiven me, so should you.” I expect everyone else to take the high road and be like Jesus while I excuse myself to play the role of sinner.
  9. I feel deserving or entitled. This is like giving yourself a treat at the end of a hard’s day of work. It’s equivalent to saying something like “I done X Y and Z so I deserve this,” or “I’ve had to deal with A B C so I deserve to…” or “Because I am a guy, I have to…”

So I minimize sin when I don’t take ownership or responsibility for my sin, when I don’t call it what it is (SIN), when I dismiss or make the sin inconsequential, and when I rationalize it away. And frankly, whenever I do these things, I often get the opposite result than I was hoping for. Instead of the conversation ending, it usually gets worse.

Again, the best way around this is to have a group of men (or women if you are a woman) holding me accountable that can call me to the rug. Think about it. How do I know that I am deceived? I need that other person to look into my life and speak truth into me. Second to this is having a ridiculously high standard of what it means to tell the truth and to be fully transparent and authentic. This is something that I am learning over and over very slowly. However, it is essential, and when I say “a ridiculously high standard,” what I really mean is a God-like standard where truth is Truth, where perfection is defined by Him, and where anything that deviates from the plumb line falls short (cf. Rom 3:23).

How do you minimize sin? Can you relate with these or is there something else that you do? If you have accountability partners, identify which ones that you do most often and have them hold you accountable to this.

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Strong Accountability Measures For Pornography (and All?) Addicts

January 9, 2010 By View Comments

NOTE: Previously I wrote a blog post, “Hardcore Accountability & Guidelines to Find the Right Accountability Partner,” where I talked about both accountability measures and accountability partner guidelines. However, I keep coming up with a more and more accountability measures, so I thought it would be best to split this blog post into two posts as they both will continue to evolve.

Do you…Need help? Need accountability? Need some direction? Need to know how to hold someone else accountable? Accountability, though a concrete action, can seem like a vague idea or thought that everyone should do but no one knows how to do. I have sat with many accountability partners only to have them, the meetings, and the relationship wane into oblivion simply because we didn’t really know how to hold one another accountable. Many men (and women) out there wish to be held accountable, but we are on our own. We are married, single, divorced, professionals, and away from the familiar. And we need accountability or we will continue to compromise our convictions and morals again and again until we don’t know who we are. Life is meant to be lived in community, not isolation. And the Christian life, especially, is meant for a community of like-minded believers (cf. Acts 2).

What is Accountability?
Accountability is simply giving an account for your actions. It is giving a record of your actions. It is necessary for any sort of change out of any addiction, especially sexual addiction, alcoholism, or even drug addiction. When a person has gone so far and so deep into their addiction so as to cause themselves relational, financial, physical, emotional, and even spiritual harm destroying relationships and trust, it becomes a vital part of their restoration on almost every level. Accountability is about bringing everything into the light or putting everything on the table. It is facing truth and reality putting structure in place so as to protect the addict from slipping or falling back into their old habits.

Accountability for Addicts
The level of accountability needed by an addict can be quite demanding; however, it can also be quite rewarding. There are various cautions one must take, but we’ll leave that for another post. If you are thinking/praying about holding an addict accountable please consider the amount of time it will take before you commit to it. What’s worse than saying, “No,” to an addict is saying, “Yes,” and not following through with your responsibilities. As an addict, he/she wants you to hold them accountable; however, whenever they are in a faulty state of mind, they can care less (though in their heart of hearts they want it more than anything else).

Before we get into the various accountability measures, let’s consider a few things. First, addicts are master liars. Therefore, expect us to lie in regards to what we are being held accountable. This is so important, maybe even more important than the issue itself. Honesty, trust, and integrity are essential for good accountability. However, just because they lie periodically, it doesn’t mean that they are not sincere. So learn, study, and know their typical mannerisms, facial expressions, and lies. Do they typically tell only partial truths, or pathological lies? Do they tell white lies or bold face lies? So do not be shocked when they lie to you. And by no means do you stop being their accountability partner when they lie to you. Create a safe environment and let them know you believe in them. Second, focus especially on Jesus Christ and the promises of the Scriptures and how they affect them emotionally. Typically, addicts love to avoid reality and emotions/feelings. The porn, the sex, the drugs, and/or the alcohol is all a cover and a tool to help them feel numb to something. Third, kill and eliminate all excuses and rationalizations. If addicts are good at anything beyond deceit and lying, they are kings of rationalizations. They are masters of logic and coming to the wrong conclusion well. As Rick Warren and others say, we must remember that rationalizations are when we rationalize that are rational lies. We are experts at deceiving ourselves and others. We deceive ourselves so well that we even begin to believe them ourselves as the Truth. And finally, never tell an addict to trust their heart. Just don’t do it. Since they already struggle with their flesh (or old self), just assume that Jeremiah 17:3 (“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it.”) applies to them.

Accountability Measures
Some of these will surprise you, even shock you. However, they are unabashedly real and extreme. They are invasive calling those who will endeavor to authenticity and transparency like they’ve probably never experienced before. Here are some extreme, strong, hardcore accountability measures for porn/sex addicts (that will work for all addicts).

  1. Credit card reports & all financials need to be examined weekly and monthly. If you control the family financials, bring in your spouse to see them. If they simply don’t want it, insist that you teach them how to read and understand your financial system so that they can look at any time.
  2. Cell phone log needs to be examined weekly and monthly.
  3. Text messages must be examined compared with to phone records. Send copies of text messages sent to people of the opposite sex to your spouse and/or accountability partner.
  4. Shutdown your Social Networking sites (e.g., MySpace, Bebo, Facebook, etc.), especially MySpace. If this isn’t part your issue, then if you have a spouse, join your Facebook account with theirs so that they have visibility into everything you do (and being their friend isn’t enough–they need to see the messages sent/received). Give your accountability partner all your logins and passwords to all your social websites (Facebook, Twitter, etc.) so that they can check them at his/her leisure or whim.
  5. Give your accountability partner all your logins and passwords to all your email accounts (Yahoo! Mail, Gmail, Hotmail, etc) so that they can check them at his/her leisure or whim. If you use a free email like Yahoo! Mail, upgrade so that you have no ads to deal with (yes, pay for email). I actually highly encourage the use of Yahoo! Mail Plus. You can easily switch to them for free through TrueSwitch.com. And if you used your email to hook up with anyone or for porn emails, then you definitely may need to switch emails as your Spam/Junk emails may be out of control. If you have a spouse, join email accounts with them, again so that they have full access/visibility. Gmail doesn’t have banner ads like Yahoo! Mail, Hotmail, Juno Mail, etc.; however, it does have Sponsored Links that can be just as bad.
  6. No access to Internet without some sort of filter. Monitoring software placed on the PC that emails reports to an accountability partner (i.e., X3 Watch**Cheapest Solution though difficult for Accountability Partners/Available for iPhones, SafeEyes**Available for iPhones, Covenant Eyes**Best for Windows Mobile Phones/Development for iPhones, bsecure**Best for PCs/Available for iPhones [Free for iPhone]). If you cannot do this because of work IT restrictions, other guidelines may be needed. Suggestions?
  7. Absolutely NO TV after 10pm (TV rules change after as TV is governed by the FCC from 6am-10pm [See Wikipedia: TV Regulation]). For the addict, we shouldn’t be watching shows that have heavy sexual overtones like The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Desperate Housewives, Nip Tuck, etc. Even better, sell your TV, give it away, or just put it in the garage. If you place your TV on the curb, it will magically walk away quickly, especially if you put a piece of paper on it that says FREE!
  8. Get rid of cable TV. Example: Jeff Fisher at PorntoPurity. He writes:

    9. Our family’s decision to get cable TV was one of the worst we ever made. …My uncle lived in San Diego. My dad and mom decided that a trip to California would be good. We could take in DisneyLand, Hollywood, Sea World, and try to get into a game show or a TV taping. My brother and I were ecstatic!

    About this time, my brother and I were bugging my parents for Cable TV. Our friends had HBO, MTV, WTBS, & NICKELODEON and we wanted to get them as well. So my parents brought an interesting offer on the table: We can go to California or we can get cable.

    …That was 25 years ago for me. I had no idea that cable programming and movies would warm me up to the world of masturbation, fantasy, and eventually porn. My parents could have given some more guidelines and restrictions on the TV, sure. But I can’t blame them for the decisions and clicks that I would later choose.

  9. No rated PG-13 movies that have sexual conduct, brief nudity, sensuality, or possibly even adult language. The MPAA states,

    10. A PG-13 motion picture may go beyond the PG rating in theme, violence, nudity, sensuality, language, adult activities or other elements, but does not reach the restricted R category. The theme of the motion picture by itself will not result in a rating greater than PG-13, although depictions of activities related to a mature theme may result in a restricted rating for the motion picture…More than brief nudity will require at least a PG-13 rating, but such nudity in a PG-13 rated motion picture generally will not be sexually oriented. There may be depictions of violence in a PG-13 movie, but generally not both realistic and extreme or persistent violence. A motion picture’s single use of one of the harsher sexually-derived words, though only as an expletive, initially requires at least a PG-13 rating. More than one such expletive requires an R rating, as must even one of those words used in a sexual context. The Rating Board nevertheless may rate such a motion picture PG-13 if, based on a special vote by a two-thirds majority, the Raters feel that most American parents would believe that a PG-13 rating is appropriate because of the context or manner in which the words are used or because the use of those words in the motion picture is inconspicuous.

    Notice that last statement. It is a catchall statement that allows the MPAA to push the envelope if they so choose based on a majority vote of “most Americans.” Porn/Sex addicts are not most Americans and we should not allow ourselves to be held to the same low standards. The point behind this is “Garbage in, garbage out,” and the battle starts in the mind and for most guys with the eyes.

  10. No rated R movies without first having the movie reviewed by screenit.com (requires subscription but by far the best. Others include PluggedIn, Crosswalk, MovieGuide) or someone else informing you, your spouse, and/or your accountability partner. Or utilize the ClearPlay DVD Player (post here).
  11. No cash allowed. But, if you must carry cash (i.e., a server at a restaurant, etc.), provide receipts for everything. If you are a server, have someone else at the store count your money & claim 100% (as you should always do). When you leave the house, show your pockets and wallet (and whatever else you take with you) to your spouse to search for cash counting all the cash you have.
  12. Bring back ALL receipts, not matter what (but especially if you carry cash), offering them to your spouse (to build trust) and to your accountability partner.
  13. The addict needs to call/text spouse/accountability partner before/after work or errands. Picture messages (MMS) work fantastic; however, be sure to have all pictures deleted at every night so as not to send the same picture on accident or even have the possibility of being able to lie/deceive. For example, if I go to lunch with Bob at Applebee’s, I take a picture of Bob holding an Applebee’s menu sending it to whomever.
  14. Keep a long book of addresses, times, & odometer readings in the car. For example,

    15. 12/1/20xx, Left MY HOUSE, 5:15p, 73,564 miles
    Arrived Church (123 ABC Rd, City/State-if necessary) 5:23p, 73,569 miles.
    Left Church 8:34p, 73,569
    Arrived HOME, 8:42p, 73,574 miles
    12/2/20xx, MY HOUSE, 7:15a, 73,574 miles
    Work (123 XYZ Rd, City/State-if necessary) 7:30, 73,584 miles.

    While this may never be looked at, the one time it may “take you too long to get back from Wal-Mart,” you can show them mileage and compare on Google Maps or Yahoo Maps.

  15. Person and/or couple must go to intensive and/or pastoral counseling once or twice a month. For best and faster results, the couple should go individually and collectively. Read here for Questions You Should Ask Your Counselor.
  16. Call/text your accountability/mentor every waking hour down to 5-10 times a day (and leave voicemail if needed).
  17. Call someone different for each day of the week. On Monday, call Bob, Tuesday, call Sam, etc. OR, if you have a larger support system, have one (or more) person(s) call you each day.
  18. Consider something you love and give it to your accountability partner as a consequence (i.e., a guy I know loves his X-Box and gives it up [for a pre-determined period of time] any time he does fall, don’t do a predetermined amount of money though).
  19. Use Google Latitude ( http://www.google.com/latitude/intro.html ) to have people (spouse/accountability partner) know your location at all times (will need a Google Account for this).
  20. Though possibly not really an accountability measure, separation may help–if done correctly! One good plan is 30 days of no contact with intensive individual counseling (same counselor) followed by 30 days of joint counseling while maintaining intensive individual counseling. Followed by an evaluation to decide whether to extend the separation or move back in together. The 30 day period can be whatever predisposed time period you and your spouse decide.
  21. Create a list of questions (of at least 5) that must be asked to one another at least once a week in person, face to face borrowing any unforeseen circumstances. Once this list has been created, ask the question: “What’s one question that you do not want me to ask you that I should?” Then add the question, “Have you lied to me?”
  22. Absolutely NO business traveling. However, if you must travel, then you need to set some hotel guidelines. To book your hotels, use CleanHotels.com, which is a Priceline affiliated booking site that helps travelers find a place to rest their head in a room without X-rated pay-per-view movies (source here).

    Also, since there is a no TV policy, have the manager or the maintenance group remove your TV before your arrival. Every hotel that I’ve stayed at thinks this is weird and some have refused. Marriott sometimes couldn’t remove the TV but they removed the cable cords. Furthermore, have them email your spouse or accountability partner identifying who they are with contact information and what has been done to ensure that you cannot watch TV.
  23. Spiritual/Emotional spotting where you MUST show your journal to your accountability/mentor. For Christians, this needs to include notes about your prayer times, daily Scripture reading, etc. If necessary buy a Spiritual Life Notebook.
  24. If you are a Christian, share the gospel with one person a week reporting back to your accountability partner. Yes! That’s right! I said it. Philemon 6 states, “I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ” (NIV). While the meaning of this verse is debated, suffice it to say that sharing your faith with believers and/or nonbelievers will teach you about who you are in Christ and “every good thing we have in Christ.” This is extremely tough because you may think that you are not qualified to share the gospel. Well, anyone who is a Christian is qualified. Share as one who is walking the journey with your issues and all…authentic and transparent. Yes, you have your issues and tell them that. If they ask, tell your story to whatever extent you are comfortable. Share your testimony in progress. Share your hope in Jesus Christ.
  25. If you are a Christian, of course you need to be reading the Bible and praying, and start here: 5 minutes reading (start in Mark, then John, then 1-2 Corinthians, Romans, Matthew, Epheisans-Philemon, Luke, Acts, Hebrews-Revelation and read through OT) & 5 minutes praying which includes a prayer that the Lord will keep you from evil (If you don’t know what to pray, start with the Lord’s Prayer, Matt 6:9-13, or with the Scripture that you read for the day).
  26. If you are a Christian, memorize Scripture! The more the merrier. Not only memorize it but journal on it. Meditate on it. Think about it. Talk to people about the verse all week. (Here’s a Starting Scripture Memory List that have some that I still need to memorize myself, or try Navigator’s Topical Memory System.)
  27. Exercise at least once a week for 1-2 hours. This could be playing basketball, football, volleyball, Ultimate Frisbee, golf, run, etc. Also, if possible, do not do this alone for you also need some accountability with this as well. Join a recreational league or church league or city league. Invite your spouse or your accountability partner to join you. The less you exercise, the more important this is.
  28. Person must go to a live-in recovery program. For me, this is a last resort/recourse.

For guidelines about how to find the right accountability partner, see my post, “Guidelines to Find the Right Accountability Partner.”. However, in short, your accountability partner should be someone you trust of the SAME gender (only possible exceptions is someone struggling with same sex addiction) who is at the same stage or further along than you with the same or similar struggle.

Can you think of any other hardcore or extreme accountability measures on should take?

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Guidelines to Find the Right Accountability Partner

January 8, 2010 By View Comments

NOTE: Previously I wrote a blog post, “Hardcore Accountability & Guidelines to Find the Right Accountability Partner,” where I talked about both accountability measures and accountability partner guidelines. However, I keep coming up with a more and more accountability measures, so I thought it would be best to split this blog post into two posts as they both will continue to evolve.

Jeff has restored my idea of accountability; however, finding the right person can be quite difficult. Here are some suggestions in finding the right person.

  1. Must be of same gender. (see above)
  2. Must be someone you trust. Even this is not a guarantee that you will not have the door shut on you.
  3. Try to pick someone who is at your stage or further along than you (though this is not always possible).
  4. Pick someone you like. There is “nothing worse” than meeting with someone you don’t like.
  5. Pick someone with the same or similar struggle. While addiction is addiction, it is easier to relate to another porn addict than it is to an alcoholic or a drug addict. However, that is not to say that we cannot learn from a recovered alcoholic or drug addict. It’s just different in many different ways.

John Baker makes these suggestions in his book Life’s Healing Choices::

  1. Does he or she have a growing relationship with Jesus Christ? Do you see the character of Christ developing in this person?
  2. Does this person’s walk and talk match? Some Christians can quote the Bible, chapter and verse, but their lifestyle does not match their talk.  Be certain that the person you choose to share your journey with is someone whose life is worthy of imitation.
  3. Is he or she a good listener? Do you sense that this person honestly cares about what you have to say?
  4. Does he or she show compassion, concern, and hope, but not pity? You don’t need someone to feel sorry for you, but you do need someone who can be sensitive to your pain.
  5. Is this person strong enough to confront your denial or procrastination? Does he or she care enough about you and your progress to challenge you?  There is a difference between helping others and trying to fix others.  You need to be careful to guard the relationship from becoming unhealthy or codependent.
  6. Does he or she offer suggestions? Sometimes we need help in seeing options or alternatives that we are unable to find on our own.
  7. Can this person share his or her own past and current struggles with you? Is this person willing to open up and be vulnerable and transparent with you?

Celebrate Recovery and other 12-step groups make a major distinction between having an accountability partner and a sponsor. Celebrate Recovery  states that there should be prerequisites for accountability partners. They are:

  • Actively attending Celebrate Recovery meetings.
  • Sharing a similar area of recovery.
  • Must be same sex.
  • Developing deeper relationship with Christ.
  • Demonstrating growth in their recovery.

They also state that there are prerequisites for sponsors. They are:

  • Completed CR Step Study Group / Completed the 12 Steps.
  • One continuous year of sobriety / abstinence.
  • Actively attending Celebrate Recovery meetings.
  • Have their own Sponsor and Accountability Team.
  • Must be same sex as Sponsee.

Here is a comparison chart of Accountability Partners and Sponsors (by CR).

Accountability Partners Sponsors
Attend Large Group and Open Share Group together. Coaches you through the 8 Principles/12 Steps;
Participant’s Guide.
Join and attend Step Study Group together. Available in time of crisis or potential relapse.
Get involved in Celebrate Recovery Service together. Serves as a sounding board by providing objective point of view.
Holds you accountable for same area of recovery and issues. Discuss issues in detail too personal for meeting time. (Listens to 5th Step)
Call each other daily. Give recovery related assignments.
Encourage each others’ program. Requires meeting attendance.
Help motivate each other. Requires check-in calls.
Are at the same place (steps, sobriety time) in their recoveries. Has at least 1 year continuous sobriety and has completed the 12 Steps.
Includes at least 3 or 4 people. Same area of recovery and gender.
Pray for each other. Shares experience strength and hope.**
Attends BBQ together and Solid Rock Cafe. Will confront denial and procrastination.

**Sadly, the Celebrate Recovery material doesn’t say that the sponsor will pray for the Sponsoree (<-Is that a word?).
One thing I do like about the CR material is that it says, “A sponsor is like having a personal weight/exercise trainer. An Accountability Partner is someone you go with to the gym.”

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