Porn Statistics

June 9, 2010

Welcome back! If you haven’t already, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed or subscribe via Email. Or, if you haven’t already, check out wife’s story at Unfolding Grace. For my most recent posts, go to My Blog. Thanks for visiting! Deacon Ralph at the Catholic theporneffect.com, posted this awesome imaged statistics that [...]

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14 Types of Denial in Pornography and/or Sex Addiction

May 1, 2010

This was originally written as a guest post for PorntoPurity.com.
Denial. No! What is it, really? I hear it thrown around constantly, and you probably do too. If you are anything like me, when you hear something like the first step that says, “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions [...]

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My Therapy Homework

April 29, 2010

Ok, for the majority of my life I have been in school. It was only recently that I stopped going to school; however, even now, I still maintain a school-type mindset for some reason…maybe it’s what I know and it’s what I’ve done well. Anyways, I am one of those people who is interested in [...]

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The Addiction Cycle for Pornography or Sex Addiction

April 26, 2010

Patrick Carnes describes the addiction cycle as:

Preoccupation-the trance or mood wherein the addicts’ minds are completely engrossed with thoughts of sex. This mental state creates an obsessive search for sexual stimulation.
Ritualization-the addicts’ own special routines which lead up to the sexual behavior. The ritual intensifies the preoccupation, adding arousal and [...]

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The Pornographic Bargain

April 25, 2010

There is a story called Faust by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe where Faust sells his soul to the devil (Mephistopheles). (Source, Source)
Faust. What is your name?
Mephistopheles. The question seems but cheap
From one who for the Word has such contempt,
Who from all outward show is quite exempt
And only into beings would delve deep.
Faust. The being of [...]

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My First Sexaholics Anonymous Meeting

April 20, 2010

The other day, I went to my first Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) Meeting. It is a very interesting group, and very private group. Celebrate Recovery, though “Anonymous,” advertises and stands rather proud. It is hard to be a church goer and people not know you go to Celebrate Recovery. Furthermore, usually the shame that is often [...]

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A Pornography Addict’s Anchor in the Midst of Enticement: A Story

April 19, 2010

In the Odyssey, he Greek hero Odysseus (or Ulysses, as he was known in Roman myths), Circe warns Odysseus regarding his trip. She says:
First you will come to the Sirens who enchant all who come near them. If any one unwarily draws in too close and hears the singing of the Sirens, his wife [...]

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The Addiction Noose as a way of Looking at the Addictive Cycle

April 16, 2010

Ted Roberts, in Pure Desire, refers to The Addictive Cycle as the Addictive Noose.
The Noose of Sexual Addiction consists of four issues:

The Addictive Root
The Addictive Mindset
The Addictive Lifestyle
The Addictive Cloak

So the addiction is not just about the person’s behavior/lifestyle, but about a wide variety of other issues. As Ted Roberts says, “It is about his [...]

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The Stockdale Paradox and Pornography Addiction

April 14, 2010

What is the Stockdale Paradox? The Stockdale Paradox is best described in Jim Collins’s book Good to Great. In it, he writes (83-87): The Stockdale Paradox is named after… [Audio clip: view full post to listen]
Admiral Jim Stockdale who was the highest ranking US military officer in the “Hanoi Hilton” prison-of-war camp during the height [...]

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My Anger Towards Anyone Is Really My Hatred Towards Me

April 3, 2010

I have been pondering and pondering these questions that my wife has been asking me again and again: “Why do you hate me so much?” and “Why are you so angry all the time?”
I have become a wrecking ball of anger. I am just angry all the time. Even when my anger is not being [...]

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My Daily Unknown Choice: Live for God or Live for Myself?

April 2, 2010

The other day, my mentor said something that I have forgotten. He asked me, “Do you want to live for Jesus?” Dumbfounded by the simplicity of this question, yet knowing that he had a point that he wanted to make. I gave him the cookie cutter answer. And he then blasted me saying, “No you [...]

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