For men, the fear of passing one’s sin on to his kids is a deep and significant fear. It is also one I share in deeply. I am constantly thinking, “Which of my sons will have the deepest struggle like I have?” I think, “Do whatever you want to me, but please spare my kids [...]
Fleeing Lust, Pursuing God (1 Timothy 6:11 & 2 Timothy 2:22)
April 5, 2012 by Leave a Comment
1 Tim 6:11 states, “But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness.” 2 Tim 2:22 states, “Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” Paul is presenting what it means [...]
Rip Out the Eye of Lust? (Matthew 5:27-30)
April 5, 2012 by Leave a Comment
Matt 5:27-30 says that if we look on a person with lust in our heart then we have committed adultery in our heart. Then he goes on to give some extreme statements like “if your right eye causes you to stumble then tear it out and throw it from you…if your right hand causes you [...]
Do You Want to Be Healed? (John 5:1-9)
April 5, 2012 by Leave a Comment
Rich Mullins, a famous Christian musician, said, “People don’t read the Bible to know stuff; they read it to know God.” So I wondered what I was doing. I did start off to know God. I got a Bible College education because I wanted to know God. However, something happened. Something changed. There was a [...]
Employee Assistance Program (EAP) at Work and Sexual Addiction
December 9, 2010 by Leave a Comment
Today, I checked out of curiousity whether my job would help with sexual addiction treatment as they do for alcoholism, depression, etc. However, the summary plan description (the SPD) states that services or treatments that are “experimental, investigational, mainly for research or not in keeping with national standards of practice as determined by” our EAP vendor, [...]
12 Steps to a Slip
December 3, 2010 by Leave a Comment
Every Slip Has A Beginning, and every slip has an ending.Know Your Danger Signals!Make the ending of your slip Recovery not death!Relapse is a serious and sometimes fatal reality. Start missing meetings for any reason, real or imaginary. Become critical of the methods used by other members who may not agree with you in everything. [...]
A Practical Guide to Using Journaling to Overcome Addiction in Recovery
November 16, 2010 by Leave a Comment
Journaling has been one of those daily disciplines that evade me. I have every good intention of doing it every day but fail often miserably. So now, I have committed to only journal three times a week. We’ll see how it works. However, this time, I actually have a plan, a list of questions to [...]
I’m Feeling F.I.N.E.
November 11, 2010 by Leave a Comment
Feelings are important however fleeting they may be, however uncontrollable they may seem, and however minor they are. Sometimes they are all over the place and sometimes they are “no where” and sometimes they just are. So sometimes us addicts love to answer the question, “How are you doing?” with “Fine.” We do this because [...]
8 Core Feelings and Their Associated State of Beings
November 10, 2010 by Leave a Comment
One thing that I have noticed in my meetings whether group or 12-step, I have noticed that there is a lack of understanding of feelings and associated state of beings. At first, I didn’t have a clue about this and would constantly pass off states of being as my feelings; however, this chart was given [...]
New Symptoms of ADHD in Adulthood
November 10, 2010 by Leave a Comment
Statistics (by Carnes and others?) reveal that there is a high correlation between porn/sex addiction and ADD/ADHD. While I don’t really remember the exact statistic but it is something between 70-80% of addicts have ADD/ADHD. So I thought it would be good to talk about some of the symptoms of ADD/ADHD. I don’t remember where I got this [...]
