The Big Book is full of gems for recovery and the appendices is no different. In “Appendix II: Spiritual Experience,” We find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the program. Willingness, honesty and open mindedness are the essentials of recovery. But these are indispensable. Honesty First, we must be honest with… Continue reading HOW: Basic Requirements of Recovery
The 12 Steps in Reverse from The Grapevine
I declare my complete control over alcohol and everything else; and further declare that my life is in perfect order. I recognize no power as great as I am; nor any person as smart as I am, and if you don’t like it come outside. I made a decision to run my life and everyone… Continue reading The 12 Steps in Reverse from The Grapevine
Bottoms Up: Why Does Every Addict Have to Hit Bottom?
The Twelve and Twelve asks, Since Step One requires an admission that our lives have become unmanageable, how could people such as these take this Step? … It was obviously necessary to raise the bottom the rest of us had hit to the point where it would hit them. By going back in our own… Continue reading Bottoms Up: Why Does Every Addict Have to Hit Bottom?
Celebrate Recovery’s first lesson is Denial. Have you ever heard someone say: “I’m actually not in denial; I’m just dabbling,” or “I can quit any time I want”? I love these statements. My personal favorite was: “I’m not addicted; I’m a Christian.” While I cannot remember which one I used or if I used a… Continue reading Denial
14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 2
This was a post originally written for PorntoPurity.com by me that I wanted to reproduce here (click here for Part 1). 8. Blaming: This is when you shift blame and responsibility from yourself to another person, and many times this is done unconsciously since in the depth of our being we really don’t want to be held… Continue reading 14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 2
14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 1
This was a post originally written for PorntoPurity.com by me that I wanted to reproduce here (click here for Part 2). If you are into your recovery process, you feel like you’ve done step #1 of the 12-steps. ”We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.” We… Continue reading 14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 1
The Stockdale Paradox and Pornography Addiction
What is the Stockdale Paradox? The Stockdale Paradox is best described in Jim Collins’s book Good to Great. In it, he writes (83-87): Admiral Jim Stockdale who was the highest ranking US military officer in the “Hanoi Hilton” prison-of-war camp during the height of the Vietnam War. Tortured over twenty times during his eight-year imprisonment… Continue reading The Stockdale Paradox and Pornography Addiction