Denial

Celebrate Recovery’s first lesson is Denial. Have you ever heard someone say: “I’m actually not in denial; I’m just dabbling,” or “I can quit any time I want”? I love these statements. My personal favorite was: “I’m not addicted; I’m a Christian.” While I cannot remember which one I used or if I used a… Continue reading Denial

14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 1

This was a post originally written for PorntoPurity.com by me that I wanted to reproduce here (click here for Part 2). If you are into your recovery process, you feel like you’ve done step #1 of the 12-steps.  ”We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.” We… Continue reading 14 Types of Denial in Addiction, Part 1

The Stockdale Paradox and Pornography Addiction

What is the Stockdale Paradox? The Stockdale Paradox is best described in Jim Collins’s book Good to Great. In it, he writes (83-87): Admiral Jim Stockdale who was the highest ranking US military officer in the “Hanoi Hilton” prison-of-war camp during the height of the Vietnam War. Tortured over twenty times during his eight-year imprisonment… Continue reading The Stockdale Paradox and Pornography Addiction

12 Steps to a Slip

Every Slip Has A Beginning, and every slip has an ending. Know Your Danger Signals! Make the ending of your slip. Recovery not death! Relapse is a serious and sometimes fatal reality. Start missing meetings for any reason, real or imaginary. Become critical of the methods used by other members who may not agree with… Continue reading 12 Steps to a Slip

A Practical Guide to Using Journaling to Overcome Addiction in Recovery

Journaling has been one of those daily disciplines that evade me. I have every good intention of doing it every day but fail often miserably. So now, I have committed to only journal three times a week. We’ll see how it works. However, this time, I actually have a plan, a list of questions to… Continue reading A Practical Guide to Using Journaling to Overcome Addiction in Recovery

8 Core Feelings and Their Associated State of Beings

One thing that I have noticed in my meetings whether group or 12-step, I have noticed that there is a lack of understanding of feelings and associated state of beings. At first, I didn’t have a clue about this and would constantly pass off states of being as my feelings; however, this chart was given… Continue reading 8 Core Feelings and Their Associated State of Beings

14 Types of Denial in Pornography and/or Sex Addiction

This was originally written as a guest post for PorntoPurity.com. Denial. No! What is it, really? I hear it thrown around constantly, and you probably do too. If you are anything like me, when you hear something like the first step that says, “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that… Continue reading 14 Types of Denial in Pornography and/or Sex Addiction

What Does It Mean to Believe? What Does It Mean to Have Faith?

What is faith? What does it really mean to believe? Is it: a firm belief in something for which there is no proof, or something desired, and is expected to occur? complete unfounded confidence? makes up what is lacking in knowledge? a belief in the trustworthiness of an idea that has not been proven? a… Continue reading What Does It Mean to Believe? What Does It Mean to Have Faith?